Wien Movimento. Video installation. Video Still. Vienna. 1986. Copy-right Gudrun Bielz
‘The Skin I live in’. Pedro Almodovar. 2011. Taster. <http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g6ybStm57SU>.
Letter to a man who tried to educate me about men without taking into account that women are part of the human species, too. WOMEN ARE NOT ACTRESSES AND NOT OBJECTS THAT CAN BE PLACED INTO A BOX, SAFELY TUCKED AWAY AND TAKEN OUT WHEN YOU GUYS WANT TO DO SO. WRONG NARRATIVE; AND I DO NOT MIND IF YOU HAVE PLAYED IT FOR CENTURIES.
Intro to GM*: So, no offense intended, but now you have got me going about this male – female stuff and cliche. Some things are true, but it is what we make of ourselves, how we face our own truth, how we cope with our desires and how we do not forget that the other is not here to be the mirror of our pathetic vanity or the object we use to forget about ourselves only to punish the object of desire for even this wish. If we go back to the hunter – prey scenario then you could justify rape, too. It is part of this narrative. And to be honest, we are cultural animals. So perhaps, it is quite nice to know that somebody knows a bit about themselves and might do more than: I Tarzan, you Jane.
Uncensored and unrefined version. Actually, slightly refined – very, very slightly only.
SO GENERIC MALE, THIS IS A SCENARIO. I AM SENDING THIS TO YOU AS I AM GOING TO PUBLISH THIS SOMEHOW – IN A MORE REFINED FORM – BUT I WANT TO SEND THIS TO YOU FIRST AS YOUR MAIL MADE ME THINK ABOUT THIS .
If you want to love the illusion of a woman, you will always be disappointed. Perhaps, this is what you want. If you do not want reality breaking into your scenarios of soul-mates or your narrative of the man being the hunter, YOU WILL ALWAYS HAVE TO BE DISAPPOINTED.
Also, I know – as I have experienced this – that when a man really falls in love, he, like a woman, does not care about formalities and if you are the chased or hunted – he just wants to be with her as she wants to be with him. It is that simple. And both will make everything possible to make this possible.
I think that men and women, who are scared of intimacy, who are scared of love, who are scared of losing control, who do not want any form of commitment, these are the men and women you are describing. These are also immature people, please forgive me.
What do you think a woman should do, if she gets the instructions come over I need you and a minute later, I need my space and GO – this is called hot and cold – it is ambiguity refined to a form of art – and it is at least very mixed messages. Don’t you think, GM that a woman, who gets these mixed messages from a hunter HAS EVERY RIGHT TO SAY F**K OFF TO THIS SCENARIO – BECAUSE THIS IS WASTING TIME AND ENERGY AND SHOWING A PERSON WHO DOES NOT KNOW WHAT HE WANTS – AND WE WOMEN ARE OFTEN VERY FORGIVING HERE – AND IT ALSO SHOWS THAT A LOT OF YOU GUYS HAVE NOT SURPASSED THE AGE OF 3. This is hard if one is in the body of an adult man. LOL. I BLAME THE MOTHERS AND THE RELATIONSHIP OF YOU GUYS TO YOUR MOTHERS. I BLAME THE FATHERS, TOO. HOW THEY WERE EITHER ABSENT OR SHOWED YOU THAT WOMEN ARE HERE TO BE CHASED AND THEY ARE … WHATEVER ….
Oh men oh men
You are describing that a man does not have to explain his change of mind (in wanting you or not wanting you, and some men want you today, don’t want you for a week and then want you again … LOL.)… We women are not pawns, we are not objects you can ask to come over, because you feel like it, we are not sweet distractions like your games of cricket of golf… There is something fundamentally wrong here. Every woman with some sanity and love for herself does not allow this. I am not talking about the beginning of whatever you can call this stuff between man and woman… At the beginning one is dancing around each other. Just tough luck, if one cannot dance, but wants to kill off the object of desire … This applies to both parties. You see, this is why it is quite good sometimes to talk to each other, honestly – to avoid all these lapses and accidents and whatever. But it is known that a lot of people are avoidant… avoidant of their own desires and truths and avoidant of communicating with the other, as the other is seen as dangerous and perhaps as somebody who disturbs one’s well built framework of how the world and people should be – be these the ideas of men being hunters or big captains of the industry and women being some fluffy nice stuff who get violently wild in bed only, but have to have their lips sealed – mouth zipped – in other areas of life. I am of course, black and white here, but intentionally so.
And going back to GM2, HE WANTED FAR TOO MUCH FAR TOO FAST.
So, why do you not tell me, GM that there are some men, who are greedy and cannot wait, and perhaps are making themselves sick because of all this greed. LOL
Quote from email by GM: I say this to any woman who ever cares to listen to me: Hold back a little, don’t give him your devotion too son [sic]**. Man is a Hunter, and someone that he has had to chase up hill and down dale, uncertain until the very end as to whether or not he will succeed, is more likely to be appreciated and clung to.
DOES YOUR SCENARIO ALSO APPLY TO MEN? DON’T YOU THINK THAT A MAN, AS THIS HUNTER ANIMAL HE IS SUPPOSED TO BE, SHOULD TAKE A BIT OF TIME? Don’t you think that a good hunter has love for his chased object? (However this love is coming out and about, there is respect for the chased object, and TOO MANY OF YOU HUNTERS DO NOT RESPECT THE PREY. LOL)
NOW I CAN COME UP WITH SOME SCENARIOS:
- ONE IS HUNT, GO IN FOR THE KILL AND THEN THE HUNTED OBJECT IS DEAD – GO FOR THE NEXT ONE.
- OTHER SCENARIO IS HUNT SLOWLY, CHASE, BE A BIT SADISTIC – LET HER SUFFER A BIT, BITE A BIT OF FLESH OUT – CHASE – HUNT – SLOW DEATH.
- OR HOW THE HYENAS DO THIS. GO FOR THE CADAVERS. HAVE FUN WITH NECROPHILIAC ACTS.
DOES NOT JELL.
WHAT HAS CHASED OBJECT WOMAN TO DO:
- SCENARIO 1 – SHE IS DEAD. END OF STORY.
- 2 SHE IS SLOWLY DYING …
- 3 SHE IS DEAD AND PLEASURE FOR THE HUNTER, NOT A DANGEROUS OBJECT ANYMORE.
THEY CALL LOVEMAKING LA PETITE MORT.
WHAT ABOUT BEING CARING TO THE PREY, LISTENING AND NOT BEING SO AFRAID OF BEING EATEN UP BY THE VAGINA DENTATA … NO, THIS SMELLS LIKE ROTTEN FISH. THE SCENARIO, NOT THE SEX.
So, it takes time to get to know each other – and this is why in most cases it is not so good to hop into bed immediately, though there are exceptions, as there are always exceptions in life. IT IS UP TO THE MAN TO LISTEN TO THIS AND PERHAPS TO RESPECT THIS – BUT IF A HUNTER IS SO ENTANGLED IN HIS HUNTING, HE ONLY SEES HIS PREY AS THE FOOD WITHOUT THE HISTORY OF THIS FOOD AND WITHOUT THE COMPLEXITY OF FOOD. AND THIS IS, WHY I SAY, YOU GUYS ARE VERY SIMPLISTIC. LOL.
IF A GUY, IN HIS HUNTING MADNESS, CANNOT ACCEPT THAT THE PREY HAS SOME DIGNITY AND SOMETHING TO SAY, TOO – THEN HE IS VERY DELUSIONAL, INDEED.
REWRITING THE NARRATIVE, I CAN UNDERSTAND THAT CLINGING (from the perspective of the male) can turn INTO HUNTING (from the perspective of the female). THIS, OF COURSE, MAKES UNCOMFORTABLE READING FOR MEN AS THEY HAVE SEEN HUNTING AS THEIR DOMAIN FOR CENTURIES. TOUGH LUCK. I SAY.
PS. ABOUT THE ADORATION BUSINESS. MEN OR NOT. BEING ADORED FOR THE WRONG REASONS IS AN INSULT. LOL
Booba. On controle la Zone. Autopsie Vol. 3. <http://www.youtube.com/watch?NR=1&v=gXt7trKQBDc>.
*GM = generic male
** This would be nice food for some Freudian interpretation. Son instead of soon. (Mother and son, perhaps!).